Girls madly chasing after men's campus "outside the police" mediation emotional disputes

Since March of last year, Wuhan Wenbao police have trained more than a hundred students who are enthusiastic about public order work in the universities of the nine police stations. They have served on campus as “foreign police” mediation disputes, many of which are emotional entanglements caused by college students falling in love. “When civilian police handle such disputes, they always feel different from students’ ideas. The effect of mediation is not ideal. Therefore, whenever such disputes occur, we will actively contact student mediators and the results will be better.” During an interview with the reporter in recent days, the police The phrase stated the main thrust of this initiative. It is reported that college students act as volunteer mediators, which is still the first in the country.

Girls test their boyfriends with "death"

Lesson One: Fall in love is not "playing a house"

At 11 o'clock on the evening of June 23, after a dispute between a school girl (a pseudonym) and her boyfriend Xiao Zhou at a university in Nanhu, he sent him a text message saying "to commit suicide" and then closed the machine. Xiao Zhou was in Hankou at this time. He could not contact his girlfriend. He hurriedly called the police and went to school. The police immediately rushed to the scene and informed the school and the school’s volunteer security mediator Xiao Yi. After coming to school, with the help of Xiao Yi, the police found the embarrassment, but she had already fallen asleep. A group of people are busy for a long time, but it is a false alarm.

Upon inquiry, it was learned that Min and Zhou had a relationship between men and women by default and had been in contact for two years. However, Yan is more self-willed and often suspects that Xiao Zhou is not serious about her. The two are always quarrelling about small things and do not make concessions to each other. That night, because of a trivial matter, they couldn't get together. Under angrily, they tried their “loyalty” to test her boyfriend’s “loyalty” and did not expect to alarm the police.

The civilian police and the department leaders criticized the two and the mediator Xiao Yi also took the initiative to talk with Yao. After nearly a night's exchange, he realized that he was too impulsive, not responsible, and did not consider the consequences. Afterwards, she assured Xiaoyi that she would never take love as a “player” afterwards.

Such emotional entanglements are not uncommon in college campuses. The police analysis found that the majority of public security cases in schools are caused by minor disputes. If they can mediate them in advance, they can avoid intensifying into public security cases. In order to maintain school security, the police decided to try to allow students to mediate their disputes. After rigorous selection, in March of last year, the first batch of 100 mediators emerged. Most of them were outstanding student cadres of law majors in various universities. After being trained by the police, they issued uniform appointment letters.

The reporter learned that at present, like Xiaoyi, this is both a college student and a police obligatory mediator. The number of major universities and colleges in Wuhan has increased from the original 100 to 150. According to statistics, in the first five months of 2010, the mediators assisted civilian police in handling more than 400 public security disputes and all mediations were successful.

According to reports, most college student mediators did not know how to mediate public security disputes at first. The responsible police officers organized them to study relevant laws and regulations and combined them with analogous cases of public security in college students. In the face of small disputes in life, first the civilian police chief and mediators cooperate to gain experience from them. Afterwards, they encountered simple public security cases, especially those involving students, and were mediated by the mediators. The civilian police then “pointed their eyes”. As all students, mediators and parties are easy to understand and communicate, mediation works well. Especially when there are some emotional disputes, the mediator can help the police.

Infatuated female chasing male crazy texting

Lesson Two: Talk about feelings should not die

On a Sunday evening in December 2009, at the entrance of the Wuchang Campus of Huazhong University of Science and Technology, a male student constantly persuaded and pleaded with a girl, which was particularly striking. Onlookers speculated that it was not a pair of lovers arguing? The police patrolled here and brought the two to the police station.

According to the male student Xiao Liu, he is a student of the university and the girl named Lin Lin (a pseudonym) is a student from a college or university nearby. The two met at a class reunion. Lin Lin loved Liu at first sight and began to create an opportunity to approach him and said to be his girlfriend. Xiao Liu repeatedly indicated that he had already had a girlfriend. Lin Lin ignored it. He still called Xiao Liu and sent a text message every day, whether he was in class or at rest. That night, Linlin was in a hurry and caught up with Liu’s school, blocking him at the door. He also said that if Liu did not recognize her as a girlfriend, she would commit suicide.

The police immediately notified both schools and asked mediators Guo Hao and Chen Xiaomeng. After the two mediators came, they first learned about the cause and effect of Xiao Liu. After grasping the situation, they agreed with the police that the key is to do Lin Lin’s ideological work. If she can figure it out, things can be solved.

In front of everyone, Chen Xiaomeng said to Lin Lin: “It is very common for boys to chase girls, but it is not common for girls to chase boys. Your courage and dedication to love are appreciated. However, love and break-ups are now young. For people, it should be a very common thing. You don't have to live for emotional problems. There is no other outstanding boy in this world except him. Why do you hang on this tree?"

Linlin lowered her head and said she understood this truth, but she was reluctant to give up. Chen Xiaomeng saw her a little shaken and said, “You are not so good in the way you love yourself. You bothered Xiao Liu’s normal life, and on the other hand, he drilled himself and it will definitely affect both academics. We are all undergraduates, and we must take education as our priority, and love can exist, but it cannot be all of life. If you happen to be an accident, can your loved ones bear this grief?" Guo Hao also warned her: "If this Things are not handled well. You and Xiao Liu may be disciplined by the school. If you can't graduate successfully, what should you do?

A word awakened the dreamer! Lin Lin suddenly felt that she was doing too much. Xiao Liu also said that he had something wrong. Chen Xiaomeng continued to analyze the pros and cons of falling in love with college students and Lin Lin. After two days of communication, Lin Lin understood that she had seriously interfered with Liu's normal life and had repented, and said that she would not be emotional again.

Speaking to his girlfriend by fists

Lesson 3: It is not worthwhile to lose both

On April 8th this year, Xiao Zhang and Xiao Zheng, students from a university in Hubei province, quarreled and fought at the entrance to the library. After Zhang’s alarm, police and mediator Wendeng Hu went to mediate.

Originally, these three people were fellow villagers. Xiao Zhang studied at the new campus of the university campus in Huangjiahu University Town. He claimed to be a boyfriend of a female Kiki (a pseudonym). Because Kiki and Xiaozheng were together, he was very angry and wanted to find out. Qi Qi asked clearly and advised her to change her mind. However, Kiki did not agree with the words of Zhang, but instead said he did not fall in love with Xiao Zhang. Xiao Zhang kept calling Kiki to meet and Kiki refused. On the same day, Zhang came to school with no regard for everything and found Kiki. Xiaozheng saw him stop. The two boys all regarded the other as “emotional enemies”. The speeches were full of provocative, and disputes and fights took place soon after. The latter two were all slightly injured.

As peers, Wendeng Tiger has its own advantages. None of the three students were willing to tell the police about the circumstances of the incident. However, they were very conscious of the desire to face the Wendeng Tigers. Wendeng Hu quickly learned about the actual situation one by one. Afterwards, he talked with Xiao Zhang alone.

Xiao Zhang said that he would not care about the dispute with Xiao Zheng, but he wanted to recover Qi Qi's heart. Wendeng Hu feels that Zhang is too stubborn and urges him to take a long-term view: "Kiki doesn't want to be with you. Can't you see it? However, there is no grass in Tianya, you are still young, and you will surely encounter more in the future. Fit girl.” Xiao Zhang quickly said: “I understand these principles, but I can't swallow it!”

Wen Denghu saw that he still did not get rid of the air, he deliberately spurred him to say: "You both suffered from fighting and fighting. Did Kiki love you? Who is she taking care of?" Heared this, Zhang thought of Qi Qi. Actively sat down to Xiao Zheng's side, finally lowered his head and accepted the reality. He understands that Kiki only cares about Xiaozheng and immediately says, "I will never look for them again! I wish them happy." Later, Xiao Zhang shook hands with Xiaozheng.

It is understood that some mediators sometimes receive cues to the scene than civilian police, and sometimes they do not even have to disturb the police to resolve the matter. A university has such an example: In mid-April last year, a male student at the school had a dispute with his girlfriend for a trivial matter, and his girlfriend immediately broke up. The boy couldn't figure out where he was wrong and couldn't stand to break up, but it also prevented the face from reluctant to apologize to the other side. In an uneasy mood, he mumbled on the railing balcony to "jump to the building." The roommate complained that he was ineffective and he dialed the phone of the mediator Xiao Wang. When Wang arrived at the scene and understood the cause, the phone called the boy's girlfriend, which served as a bridge of communication between the boy and his girlfriend. The two quickly released the suspect. Afterwards, Xiaowang reported to the police that the police were surprised when they heard: “We must really report the police, and the public security and fire protection departments must take the initiative to rescue them. How much public resources should be occupied?”

Student Mediator: Harvesting is much greater than paying

Guo Hao has been a mediator for more than a year. After participating in the mediation of various public security disputes, he said that he not only solved the troubles of others, he also gained a lot. “The theoretical knowledge must be combined with social practice. Being a mediator gave me this opportunity. At school, I was able to participate in the mediation of public security disputes and learn how to deal with these disputes with the police, which helped me to practice my professional knowledge. The ability to help find a job and to embark on a job at a later date has helped.” After the summer vacation, he will enter the senior year, and the pressure to learn and find a job will be even greater, but he says he will continue to do a good job as a mediator. "This may make me more tired, but the reward is far greater than pay." He said.

When Luo Qinglin, a mediator at Hubei University of Technology, encountered a public security dispute, there was a famous opening remark: "We are all university students. We are all self-cultivated. Can we calm down and talk calmly?" Almost every time, the two parties in dispute are listening. After this sentence, the sound will be octave lower.

After a successful mediation, Luo Qinglin wrote three points in his work record: "First, in the face of disputes between students, the role of counselors and student leaders should be fully utilized. The police should give educational warnings to the parties. Second, the quality of students should be treated. To improve, the police should give the parties time to correct mistakes, so that they consciously restrain their uncivilized behavior; Third, the police should do more legal propaganda on campus, let students understand the cases of disputes around them, and learn how to deal with.” He also It is stated that mediation not only educates others, but also educates oneself.

The reporter learned that in recent days, many compulsory security mediators left the campus due to graduation. Therefore, the Wuhan Municipal Public Security Bureau Wenbao Branch is preparing to select the next batch of mediators from sophomores and juniors in various universities.

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